The importance of Trust

John Gottman explains the importance of trust in relationships:

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Is Trust Important?

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Is trust the corner stone of any relationship and is it in fact true that some people cannot be inherently trusted? Trusting someone of our most inherent human desires/instinctual desires that is to form relationships and to belong. Trust is something that is very highly regarded and a sign of great character. 

All in all it is one of the main factor behind relationships. 

I like trusting people and I expect to be trusted in return. I try to make this obvious by always behaving in a trustworthy way to my friends and family.

Importance of Conversation

Think about a difficult conversation that you had anytime of your life. What does make it difficult? Have you ever think about it? Lat me give you my instance.

Most of us live far away from our family during our college life, which is usually annoying for our parents. They don't want us to stay far away from them; however, this is something we have to live through. One day, when I was having dinner with my mother we had this dialogue:

Mother: We can redecorate your room after your graduation. It looks a bit dull. What do you think?

Me: I'm afraid I'm not planning to live here after my graduation mom.

Mother: Are you planning to get married? Oh my god I didn't even know that you have a boyfriend. Hey I'm so happy for you darling! How is he like?

Me: No mom I'm planning to live alone. Maybe somewhere near to my job.

Mother: I can move with you? You will be bored, I don't want you to stay lonely.

Me: I have lived alone for 4 years mom. I want to see that ı can do it on my own.

Mother: You don't love me anymore...:(

And she started to cry. Wasn't it so obvious what I wanted? Yes it was; however, my mother acted sensitive and didn't want to understand my problem. Emotions could be the great obstacle in situations like this.  That's why we should consider all aspects and choose words accordingly. It has always been difficult to clarify ourselves if we talk to someone emotional  like my mother. Life keeps teaching us this appropriate attitudes. I'm still trying to learn and it won't come to an end easily...

 

Experiencing Authority

THERE HAVE BEEN MANY SITUATIONS IN WHICH MY EXPECTATION FOR RESPECT WAS NOT MET, HOWEVER, THERE HAVE ALSO BEEN MANY SITUATIONS IN WHICH DUE TO UNCERTAINTY I FEEL LIKE I MAY NOT HAVE MET OTHER PEOPLE'S EXPECTATION FOR RESPECT.
THE MOST APPLICABLE EXAMPLE OF WHICH IS WHAT HAPPENED TO ME LAST WEEK, I WAS AT A RESTAURANT AND A WAITER WHO WAS VERY OLD CAME TO THE TABLE, I WAS UNCERTAIN AS TO WHETHER TO REFER TO HIM AS 'SEN' OR 'SIZ', WHEN I OPTED

FOR 'SEN' I FELT AS IF I HAD BEEN DISRESPECTFUL FOR NOT USING THE FORMAL. ADDITIONALLY, MANY TIMES I HAVE BEEN SPOKEN TO OVER FAMILIARLY FROM WORKING LEVEL PERSONNEL WHICH I FIND VERY LACKING IN RESPECT.

I BELIEVE THAT RESPECT MUST BE SHOWN WITHIN A GROUP AS OUTLINED IN THE EXCERPT. BY DEMONSTRATING LEVELS OF RESPECT AND APPLYING COMMON GOAL INCENTIVES IT IS POSSIBLE TO ENHANCE AND PROMOTE RESPECT FROM WORKERS AND THE LIKE. 

Different Perceptions

"We see the same colours, we hear the same sounds, but not in the same way"

Simone Weil

  French philosopher Simone Weil lived in the first half of the 20th century; however,  this quotation still sounds reasonable all around the world. Our culture, our environment, the way we live, the people around us; our friends, lovers, sisters and brothers affect our perceptions in several ways.  People are different from each other in every aspects, even the identical twins don't feel the same in the same situations. They may interpret an instance completely opposite ways. Our needs and benefits play n enormous role in perceiving a message anyway. Many conflicts may occur because of these different interpretations. One may not agree with the other; however, this is an inevitable thing in human nature. 

Weil's argument can also be a mirror to the biggest problem of the history "Can history be an objective subject?" No, history can never be seen in an objective perspective, because even if you tell an event that you witnessed, you tell it in your own perspective, in other words you reflect it with your style. You may think that people could tell what they observe, objectively. But still this is not being objective.  Even if you tell an instance that you observed, you highlight the parts which are important to you, most importantly you tell it in your tone with your own words, which may not reflect the exact the instance for another.

As Weil puts in, we all have different interpretations and we should consider different approaches and respect them all to avoid conflicts.  

"Conscious listening is essential to function with people and the world around you."

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